What's Your Worth?

The concept of worth is a strange one. How much am I worth? How is that worth paid? Is it payed in love, security, money, time or effort? How does one measure ones own worth? And how does that value compare to someone else’s worth?

Our worth or value is often programed into us from our very early years and continues to develop through out our life. If we were a share on a stock market, perhaps we’d be placed at whatever value, due to such things as family background, gene pools, and social strata. But it goes deeper than that, as our spiritual development and sense of self is created not only from a natural background, but from the nurturing we receive within that environment. One can have a perfect product but if the CEO of the company is a tyrant, he can run a company to the ground. So too can the manner in which we are run in our formative years.

The nature/ nurture debate has always played a big role in my life as I struggled and muddled my way through the mess of trying to figure out who I was. I was adopted as a toddler. To me, that meant the question of “who am I?” became a culmination of what did I take from my creation and what did I take from the family I was raised with? Further, what imprinting did both situations have on my sense of self and worth? My spirit has always been strong with desire to uncover the mystery of me, and the road to personal development was motivated from a deep need to be recognized and valued for the spirit that was uniquely distinct from either a genetic history or the psychology of family.

I know I am worth the effort to increase my own beliefs around my worth, even though I may question now and again whether I am living up to my own intrinsic worth. It has been a long process of self discovery filled with triumphs, struggles, and more often that not stages of confusion. Even so, the quest for worth has been an experience worth living. Have I gone through stages of doubt? Absolutely. Did I, and do I continue to struggle with placing a healthy value on my contributions to the world? Yes. Worth is not something everyone is born to believe they have a lot of. Yet we should, because worth is an intrinsic aspect of our spirit. Self worth is infused in our very existence, and the path to the answer within often takes us seeking outside of ourselves. Luckily, it is not the stock market that decides our worth, ultimately, it is up to ourselves to return to that sometimes hidden truth, that we are in fact worth the stars and the moon simply for being uniquely ourselves.

Beliefs - whether they are good or bad, accurate or wrong are the building blocks to how we function in the world. We develop habits and behaviors based on these beliefs and interact assuming, on some unconscious level, that we are right. But what if the fundamental belief is faulty? What if your low sense of worth was imprinted an absent parent, a critical parent, or a parent riddled with their own flawed beliefs imprinted by their parents before them? What if, one day some one said or even that little voice inside of you said: "You are worth more".

Following the same logic, if you believe you are worth more, than you would develop different habits and behaviors that would align with that belief and you would interact with the world in a new and different manor. Imagine that. Imagine that there is truth in the statement; that you teach the world how to treat you by how you treat yourself. I have been trying to put into practice new habits (and is not easy), but in the face of conflict or change I remember...
I AM WORTH IT.


An Inner Child Exercise: Say affirmations to yourself and then to a photo of you as a child, changing the pronouns.

Inner Child Self Worth Affirmations:

My self worth is a reflection of my divine nature. / Your self worth is a reflection of your divine nature.

I am a worthy person with high self esteem. / You are a worthy person with high self esteem

I naturally learn, grow, and develop. / You naturally learn, grow, and develop.
I deserve to be loved and respected exactly as I am./ You deserve to be loved and respected exactly as you are.

I have a positive awareness of my self worth/ You have a positive awareness of your self worth.

I'm worthy of true love and being treated well. / You are worthy of true love and being treated well.

I love and accept myself regardless of any real or imagined imperfections. / You love and accept yourself regardless of any real or imagined imperfections.

I deserve love and self acceptance because I am an unique and priceless person. / You deserve love and self acceptance because you are an unique and priceless person

I honour the child within and love and accept her unconditionally. / You honour the child you are and love and accept yourself unconditionally.

I have high regard for my potential. / You have a high regard for your potential.